Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Life as I know it

Life has changed significantly here in the Bush house.
Gracie is now 2 months old, so we're finally settling into a rhythm. 
I got laid off from work a week ago, so now my attention is back focused on home.
However with the loss of the income comes the need to refigure things. To scale back again and possibly try to find another work from home opportunity so that I can help with our family finances. 
My mom visited a couple weeks ago. She stayed at our house, we totally enjoyed having her here.

A biggie? My husband finally watched a Bollywood movie with me...and he enjoyed it. What movie was it? Gunday with Priyanka Chopra, Ranveer Singh and Arjun Kapoor. 

What's life like with three children? That's a question I always longed to answer yet I was wondering how long would it be before I could as I miscarried 3x between Caleb and Gracie. Having three children is hard but it is fun. I enjoy seeing my children interact, especially watching Gracie's little personality emerge as she interacts with her siblings. I also enjoy watching the bond that Kaylee and Caleb have. It's beautiful to watch them play and see how excited Caleb is when Kaylee gets up in the morning (he's usually the first person awake in the house besides his daddy). 

As a mom I will admit, it is not for the impatient. Children require time and attention. Especially small children, it only takes a moment of not paying attention for disaster to strike. Earlier this week I went to take out the trash and I left my Caleb in the house since I didn't have a free hand for him to walk with me. While I was walking back, lo & behold, my son was outside walking towards me. My husband was in the back and my son walked right out the front door before my husband could stop him. Thankfully nothing happened to him and my husband was right behind him but its the fact that he walked out the house not knowing that something could have happened to him. I post this so that new parents can know to literally keep an eye on your children. But even more important than that...PRAY over your children, cover them daily. Satan is always looking for any opening to get to them so keep them covered in prayer.

As a wife, marriage is NOT for the faint at heart. It requires more work than you want to do. It requires sacrifice, many times what you want will get scrapped for the good of your marriage. Marriage is like a mirror. It will show you what you need to work on in yourself. We can say oh this is what's wrong with my spouse, yet its not about what's wrong with them BUT what's wrong with you. You cannot change anyone so focus on YOU. Most importantly marriage NEEDS God. If God is not in your marriage, your marriage will suffer. I think every wife needs an active prayer life because we cannot change our husbands and it takes time to really know our husbands yet we can pray to our God who knows our husbands better than we ever will (the same goes for children, especially teenagers). 

{I share this because we need it. People who are hoping to get in life where I am, married with children, need this. They need to know what 'married with children' entails. Having children will totally change your life because they are a gift, they truly belong to God we're just here to raise them in Him and love them like He loves us. They need to know that marriage requires work, its not just a list of dos and don'ts but a life of 'I DO.' Singles who are patiently waiting to get married and/or have children. Know that there are people who support you and applaud you for waiting patiently and trusting God's timing.}


Trust in God for He's working on your behalf before you can see it.
Kris

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Lost Time and Dirty Diapers

My life is that of trying to make the most of my time every day. Between homeschooling (our last day was yesterday, THANK GOD), working from home full-time (40+ hours weekly), taking care of my hubby (surgery went well), taking care of the kids (Gracie made 5 weeks Wednesday, Caleb turned 3 on the 30th, Kaylee is officially a 2nd grader), having my mom-in-love at our house for a week, and getting my masters degree (still maintaining a 4.0). Life has been busy to say the least.

Even as I type this post, Gracie is in my arms resting after her feeding. 

One thing that I have learned though in the last few couple of months is that God does NOT give you more than you can stand. Every time I think life getting too overwhelming, God gives me the extra strength and patience to get through the day. He reminds me that I am not perfect when I realize that I've skipped my daily quiet time with HIM, which has happened more than I care to admit. He reminds me that HE loves me regardless to my faults and issues. That its okay to make mistakes as long as I learn from them and not dwell.

I am currently doing the 'You are loved' study with GMG. This study is quite awesome and is very easy to follow along with even if you do not have the access to the book.

Another thing I've learned is to ask for and accept my husband's help. Even though I think I should be able to do it all, Chris knows that I need help and is always willing to help me. Four years into our marriage and I am more than thankful and more than glad we made the decision to get married and STAY married.

Have an awesome week! I hope to catch up soon (maybe over the weekend)!

-Kris

Friday, May 16, 2014

Family Update!!!



So Hi everyone, the little cutie above is Christian Grace Lola Bush, the newest member of the Bush Family! She was born on May 7th weighing in at 6lbs 6oz. As with all newborns her favorite activities are eating, sleeping and pooping (in that order).

Other updates: This mama is now working from home thus my prolonged absence, it takes up quite a bit of my time however I rest in the knowledge that God put this opportunity together for me and that I am able to contribute to our family's finances in a major way. 
With me now working from home (as an Accountant) I will be limiting my book reviews to only those I really like. I will be participating in the Good Morning Girls summer book/bible study "You Are Loved." I will still be blogging as well (about 2-4 posts a month).

So now I am working from home and resting. My husband and I's four year wedding anniversary is in 11 days and our son's 3rd birthday is 3 days after that. So this month has been quite busy for us and next month will be just as busy with my husband having surgery in June (we thank you for your prayers).

( Caleb excitedly learning to hold his sister Christian)

(Kaylee excitedly holding her sister Christian)

With Love,
Kris

Saturday, April 26, 2014

A Balancing Act

So in the last week, life has changed drastically for our family.
No, baby Christian has not made her grand entrance yet, lol. She's still hanging out and cooking.

But this stay at home, homeschooling wife and mama has picked up working from home as an Accountant/HR personnel for a new corporation, which means learning the ever balancing act of being a Work from home wife & mom versus just being a stay at home wife & mom. 
Initially I thought this would be an easy process, however I was so far from reality. The truth is that it can be quite tiring. Especially if I don't prep the night before and manage my time well. Time management has never before been as big a deal as it is now. It's the difference between a smooth running day and a frustrating day.

Even though I am working from home, I also go into the office (which is about an hour to an hour & a half away) one day a week which may increase to two/three days a week. Of course this is all dependent on my hubby's work week.


So this is what I've learned about balance this week...it is OK to ask for help and to take that help. It does not make me any less of a mom or wife to ask for my husband's help. The other thing, I learned is that my husband WANTS to help, which is absolutely awesome. He doesn't mind if he has to mind the kids for an entire day because I have to go into the office, nor does he mind helping with meal time because I may be on a conference call. I am so thankful for him and his support of my career.

This act of balancing work with homeschooling and family life, is not easy but I am more than ready for the challenge. And after my first week, I am confident that I will be able to balance pretty well. 

So tell me, if you are in the same or similar position in life, how do you balance it all?

~Kris

Thursday, April 17, 2014

A God First Life


I think in life there are three types of Christians. Those who are actively putting GOD first in their lives. Those who want to put GOD first but can't quite figure it out. And those who care more about their fleshly desires than putting GOD first in their lives. 

It may seem kind of harsh to think of such categories, however when you really think about it, its not too far off. For those of us who are actively pursuing a relationship with GOD yet need the help with really putting HIM first, a book to help you would be The God-First Life by Stovall Weems.


This book looks at Christian life as if you were a babe in Christ trying to figure it out. You know you want more you just don't know how to obtain it. Then read this book and it will help. One thing that I love in this book is on page 99 in which the author breaks down the Lord's Prayer:


In breaking down the Lord's Prayer as such, the author helps the reader to see that while they may not pray this exact prayer they can get across the same effect of Praise, Purpose (us doing God's will), Provision (God providing for us), Pardon (asking for forgiveness), People (praying for others), Protection (asking for God's protection), and closing out with Praise.

Then the author goes further and reminds us that even in the Lord's Prayer we are putting GOD ahead of ourselves. 
Another topic I enjoyed in the book is the chapter "You've Got to Feed Yourself." Many Christians, regardless to whether they just got saved yesterday or been saved for years, are not always aware of the need of daily fellowship with God beyond prayer. Yes, prayer is important but the only way to truly hear God's response to your prayers is to learn who HE is through studying HIS Word. Many times, God's answer's to your prayers will come through reading HIS Word.
I have gotten plenty of responses to my prayers while studying HIS Word. The Holy Spirit teaches and its our job to ask for instruction in the Word.

"Be careful of approaching the Word with your own agenda"- Stovall Weems. 
So often we do just that, we bring our issues and desires to the Word of God and try to make God's Word apply to what we want. If we want revenge on someone, we'll try make God's Word apply to that situation. If we feel we deserve blessings, we'' try to make God's Word apply. However God's Word does not exist to be a genie but to be instruction, to correct, to admonish, to guide
And to be honest, I used to think this was normal, because I watched people do it everyday. They would take a Scripture out of the Bible and make it apply to their situation, whether it did or not. They would tailor the Bible to fit their lives instead of taking their lives and circumcising it to align with God's Word. Yet this is the very thing the author warns us about.

Whether you're a new believer or a seasoned believer, you're never too old/young to live a God-First Life. Many of us lead a me-first life not realizing that it is what holds us back. We look at how we can benefit from God instead of coming to HIM in humble servitude.

~Kris


[I received this book through the BookLookBlogger program in exchange for my honest review.]

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Training and the Mission of Marriage

Something I just picked up on while doing Discussion Questions for class is that just like we get training for jobs, we should receive training for life, especially marriage. Prior to getting married we should undergo a training period so we know (to a degree) what marriage is about. Too often people jump into marriage without truly discovering what marriage is about especially considering marriage is the combining of two lives into one life
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

Many times people (like myself) go into marriage not fully understanding what marriage, especially a godly marriage, requires of us. Marriage REQUIRES sacrifice, submission, obedience, unconditional love, unconditional respect among other things. However when we think about getting married we don't think about these things, we just think about the fancy wedding & honeymoon. We think about "oh he so fine" about having a man. But then we don't realize what marriage really means. 

I am almost sure everyone goes into marriage with expectations, we go into it certain understandings (mutual or not). Yet when these expectations and understandings are not communicated, that's when the arguments arise that make people believe that they're incompatible or that their marriage won't work.
Many arguments and issues can be avoided if people knew what their spouse expected of them beforehand. What GOD expects of them. And honestly some things only come through "on-the-job training." You learn how your spouse likes to communicate through time. You learn that sometimes its best to shut up and let them be than to hound them to talk.

I remember when I first got married, I thought I knew about submission, about obedience, about unconditional love, about sacrifice yet I quickly realized I was unprepared. I was unprepared for what submission really meant. For me it's being willing to be heard yet not force an issue. To set aside my pride in wanting to be in control and be under the mission of succeeding in marriage and as a family together. In marriage we have to realize that each person plays a different but equivalent role.

We have to let go of having the "all about me" attitudes, being lazy, being too headstrong, trying to control your husband. Too often we think we always know better when it's not about knowing better. It's about doing better, it's about knowing how to make a suggestion without issuing a demand. It's about realizing that being "headstrong" is actually one of the curses pronounced over Eve (and thus the rest of us). And thus is a part of flesh that has to be circumcised.

To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you. (Genesis 3:16)

If you cultivate a submissive and obedient heart towards God prior to marriage then you will be more adept to be submissive and obedient in marriage. Many times we try to rationalize why we shouldn't be submissive or obedient but in all honesty, there is no rationalization. 

Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way prosperity will come to you. (Job 22:21)
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  (Ephesians 5:21-22)



And before anyone asks, I address wives because I am a wife. I cannot truly address a man on his role as a husband as I have no experience as such. I address what I live, what I understand.

~Kris

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Communication at its Best

This morning I read an article on HappyWivesClub and I was quite surprised and yet not surprised in what I read.

Fawn Weaver reminds the reader of the age old saying that arguing is normal that all couples argue at some point and that to a degree arguing is healthy for a relationship. Something I think everyone has heard. But then she quotes something Rosie O'Donnell said on Oprah a while back in which Rosie said she wished she would have expressed her feelings versus getting angry and snapping off (in a situation with Barbara Walters). Rosie states that had she just reacted exactly how she felt, then the outcome of that situation would have probably been quite different.
Fawn then relates this to marriage in how most people do the same thing Rosie did which is to snap out in anger when they're hurt or offended.

So then I began to reflect on different arguments or "heated discussions" that I've had in my marriage and I can definitely agree. There have been several times that I have been hurt by something my husband said and instead of addressing my hurt feelings, I have snapped out in anger, which in hindsight did absolutely nothing to address my hurt feelings but did start an unnecessary argument. And I can honestly say the same has happened with my husband and its after the fact, after we've argued and further compounded the situation that we speak on the underlying feelings, on how an action made us feel & why we snapped. 
I wonder how much different the landscape and atmosphere in our marriage would be if instead of getting angry/yelling/snapping, we just addressed our actual feelings. No anger, no animosity just plain and simple, "this is how __ made me feel."


I challenge all of my readers to make this change, instead of getting angry and lashing out that you address your feelings. Now here's the side effect: it will make you face your vulnerability.
When you address your feelings instead of allowing anger to surface, you allow your vulnerability to surface. In marriage this can be crucial, to allow your husband/wife a look inside your feelings, inside your heart. To let them see what really affects you.


Remember love keeps no record of wrong doing, love covers a multitude of sin. We can start by being slow to anger and quick to address what has offended us in a respectful manner that gets across our "feelings" but does not point blame or offends. I read recently (somewhere on Facebook) that when you criticize a behavior be very careful to criticize the person.




We do better, when we know better.
~Kris

Saturday, April 5, 2014

Am I pleasing in YOUR eyesight?

May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer. (Psalm 19:14 NLT).

I absolutely love this verse! 

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart by pleasing to you, O LORD. When I read this verse I think of how our words need to match our heart. David is coming to God saying, Lord look at the words I say and my heart, are they pleasing in your eye sight?
The magnitude of that is awesome! 

Now think of yourself, can you confidently go to God and say Lord look at the words of mouth and what my heart meditates on, are they pleasing in YOUR sight? I know that as much as I want to say yes, there are many times when my heart nor my words would be pleasing to the Lord. There are days when I'm not living in the way I should be. I'll let anger, frustration or irritation get the best of me when I should meditate on God's Word so that God gets the best of me.

So how often do you rely on something else? The Lord is our rock and redeemer, He is the one we should run to when our hearts are troubled to meditate on His Word. 
Does this happen ALL the time, probably not. But the truth is that it needs to happen all the time. 
I am slowly learning that nothing is substitute God. Even if I don't think I am attempting to substitute something for HIM, that's exactly what I do when I turn to anything other than HIM when I am in need or troubled. I am no longer meditating on God when I do this.

This is what we do as a people. We have a hard day we turn to people. We want to be "happy" we turn to stuff. Our heart meditate on something different than the LORD. And while our words may profess HIM, our hearts will be far from HIM. We have to push our hearts close to GOD, it won't happen on its own. 


Lord am I pleasing in your eyesight? Are the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart pleasing to you? Do they glorify you? Do I give honor and glory to in EVERYTHING I do? 
If I do not, wreck my heart, rip out anything that does not please YOU! Wash my mouth and put YOUR word in my mouth.

Change your words and what you meditate on to be pleasing in HIS sight. That is what matters.
~Kris

Friday, March 28, 2014

Women of Influence......end of the study


Today is Friday and the last day of this Women of Influence mini-study.

A couple of different verses that we've read come to mind:

or if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this? (Esther 4:14)

Esther had this amazing story. She went from being a commoner in Persia to being the wife of the King of Persia, a Queen. Then came the threat to the Jewish people of being annihilated due to Haman's trickery & evilness. This particular verse is when Esther is asked to take a stand and approach the King on this topic. This was such a big thing to ask of her because of the rules of engagement: if she went before the King without being summoned she could be killed if he was not pleased. Yet the entire situation was not about Esther herself but about her trusting God to take care of her and the Jewish people. Moredecai reminded Esther that God could have placed her in her royal position of Queen to be able to influence the King in a godly manner. 

I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also. (2 Timothy 1:5)

As women of influence its our job to pass on our faith to our children. Even if you do not have children, you can become a mentor to other children (i.e. big brother big sister programs) to pass along your faith to them. For me as a mom its my job to pass along my faith in God to my children. Thus why we read the bible every morning and pray together 2-3 times a day. We have Q&A sessions after reading since I know my oldest has such an inquisitive mind. The goal is to teach them about God so they will want to have their own relationship with Him.

She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. (Proverbs 31:26)

This is probably the hardest verse to live by because its so easy to run off at the mouth. I think many women struggle with. When you're married this is doubled because women seem to have this innate thing to reject marital authority and submission. We are good for "going off" on our husbands and being hardheaded yet we don't experience marital bliss until we tame our tongues to speak wisdom and hate contention. As a wife this is one of the best things I can give to my marriage and family, to tame my tongue, speaking with wisdom & having faithful instruction on my tongue. This will happen when I, we, submit to God's authority which will enable us to submit to our husband's authority as head of the family.

These verses all are little nuggets to help women become more godly influences to those around them. 

Walk and Live as a Women of Influence. Trust God, submit to God, and be the godly influence your family needs!

~Kris

(FYI: "Why Easter Matters" study begins on Monday 3/31, you are welcome to join us on Facebook. Just comment that you are interested and I will post the link to the group)


Monday, March 24, 2014

The Storm Inside: Book Review

One of the worse things ever is to read a book but you cannot get past the introduction. 
That's my struggle today trying to review The Storm Inside. 




I've had the book in my possession for over a month and no matter how hard I try I cannot get past the introduction without a headache.
Maybe its because I'm not at the point in life where I need this book. Had this book come in 2012 when my mom was battling cancer, I may have been able to really indulge in reading it. 

From the bits and pieces I am able to coherently read, Sheila Walsh takes different stories of chaos and pain and tries to help us not focus on the chaos and pain but focus on God's Word and use God's Word to protect her hearts. 
The reason I really like the Introduction is because Walsh addresses how we think about sin and being on the path to hell. She mentions the book "the Screwtape Letters" by C.S. Lewis. I decided to look it up yesterday and its astounding how we think that as long as we aren't doing anything overtly sinful or wrong then we are okay. However it's the blatant disregard for our internal spiritual wellness that damns us, sends us to hell.
I think that is what Walsh seeks to address with this book. She addresses how we have to let go of how we feel in deference to what God says about us. We cannot allow our emotions, which can be easily manipulated, to govern us or we run the risk of being on the broad path to hell. We cannot harbor unforgiveness and yet still expect to be forgiven. 

Sheila Walsh encourage us to take the bad and trade it for God's good. Even when its pain and heartbreaking. When your child or parent dies, its painful and heartbreaking but God wants to heal your hurt so give it to HIM.

I would recommend this book to a person who's really hurting on the inside. Who's battling pain, heartbreak,  bitterness, chaos, unforgiveness, selfishness. Take this book and allow it to aid in your healing. But most importantly take what you feel and leave it on the cross.


~Kris
(FYI: I received this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest opinion.)